CO-DEPENDENCE: A matter of Focus
Let's take the mystery out of this lingo. What does this mean, and is this you?
Anyone affected by another's "dependency" can become co-dependent. However co-dependence takes place when YOU are attached to "something”, or "someone" that takes you out of the present moment focusing on "out there”, instead of focusing on yourself.
Your “drug of choice” can be focused on almost anything or anyone. Someone else's behavior, actions or addiction will do. It could be a manner of thinking such as: worry, fear or anger, yours or another’s. Over attention to: money, work, sex, the computer, prescription drug use, shopping, gambling, food, a family member, a loved one, a sick person, exercise or just plain adrenalin and busyness will suffice. Some choices of drugs are cheaper than others.
We do not even need another object to focus on. Our own thinking and actions will cause codependent behavior.
For awhile these things, people and places work. They fill a VOID. They cover up for what "ails us". We can feel very alive, powerful and in control. We appear to have our "drug of choice" under control. It appears that it is working well for us until, often without our knowing it, we are no longer using it, IT is using US!
We become irritable and unreasonable without knowing it.
We always do what we do, until it no longer works for us. Do you relate? Is this you?
We always do what we do, until it no longer works for us. Do you relate? Is this you?